I feel a little sheltered because, I have always know that
eating disorders are major problem for both men and women, I have also always
known that a lot of young people feel
pressured by society to look and act a certain way. I don’t know if it just
wasn’t as big of an issue in my town, or if I just didn’t give enough fucks to
notice but I’m finding myself exposed to these blogs and everything I am just
angry about it. There are a few different things I want to go over on this so
bear with me if it doesn’t make a lot of sense, it’s a rant so maybe it will,
and maybe it won’t but either way, it’s probably going to be a little
long…sorry.
I don’t care who you are, where you come from, anything
about you, you do not have to look or act a certain way unless you want too. I
hate it when someone tells me to just ‘be myself’ because frankly sometimes I
don’t want to be myself, there are some days when I would give everything to
not be me, so fuck yea, if that’s how I’m feeling, I may not act like my
natural self for a day. That’s fine, I don’t see anything wrong with that,
sometimes you just need to get away from yourself and that’s fine. Or you may
not know who you are yet and that’s fine too. Granted I will say my little
warning label on this, don’t forget that just because you aren’t acting like
yourself, that doesn’t mean your actions won’t affect what you’re doing. Example:
you want to act slutty for a day or something, fine go ahead but if you go all
out and have sex with some random guy at a party, that’s still going to be a
thing the next day once you’re not being slutty anymore. Also if you don’t want
to be slutty don’t judge other people who are. Yea, I agree I don’t want to see
that but at the end of the day, I will admire that people confidence because my
idea of flirting with a guy is hitting him in the arm and calling him bro. So
if someone is acting all slutty, unless they are all up on your significant other,
don’t hate. However if they are all up on your significant other, feel free to
punch a bitch. But also reevaluate your significant other situation if they are
falling for someone’s slutty act.
You do not have to look a certain way. With the exceptions
of identical twins (sometimes), no two people will ever have the same body,
ever! And I know it’s hard, trust me, I struggle with it on a daily basis, but
you just have to accept your body for all of its beauty, because I promise it
is beautiful. I’ll be honest, I am a
girl who last weighed in at 195lbs after spending my entire high school career
over 200lbs. Along with those 195lb I have stretch marks on not only my stomach
but my thighs and boobs and a “leg gap” has been out of the question for me
since I started playing hockey, cause I got me some hockey legs. And I think I
am gorgeous! Some days I don’t, some days I look at myself and I see all these
flaws and everything about me that could be seen as “gross” or “not normal” and
on those days I just like to curl up and watch movies, but I always make sure
to put on my favorite pair of yoga pants and my favorite tank and remind myself
that I have a great ass or something like that. And that’s what you should do
to, do whatever you have to do to make yourself feel awesome, whether it be
admiring your ass in yoga pants or putting on your favorite push-up bra that
makes you feel a little perkier (mentally). Its ok not to always feel awesome
about yourself but know, It’s not about how much you weigh or what society
thinks is beautiful, it’s about what you think is beautiful and what makes you
feel good. I know you hear/read this all the time but seriously, it’s true; all
the stupid cliché sayings normally are so you might as well accept it now.
As a general note, I know I said that if you want to do
something, do it, however I feel like I need to make a disclaimer saying that
if you feel like not eating for any length of time longer them a couple of
hours, don’t do that. Fuel your body and it will do great things for you
Also and this is kind of important for everyone to maybe be
aware of because only parents will tell you this but it’s true. It is totally
ok to be a virgin. Society doesn’t like to talk about it but if you haven’t had
sex yet and you’re in high school or even college, it’s not that big of a deal.
You maybe from a small town where it seems like everyone has done it, but I promise
there are people who haven’t and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
For girls and boys remember, it’s your body and you get to decide what to do
with it and you are also the one who has to live with the choices you make, not
your friends, not your family, you. That includes who you have sex with, when
you have sex with them, what you eat, how you act, how you look, everything. So
whatever you do choose to do with your body, make sure that at the end of the
day you can live with your choices.
I know that my writing doesn’t always make sense so I apologize
but here you go. I am a firm believer that everyone goes through the same
problems regardless of gender, race etc. So I hope this helps in some way to
know you’re not alone. Growing up is hard, it sucks and it doesn’t get easier
in the slightest and I don’t think it ever will, you just get better with time.
But since growing up is so hard, go easy on everyone, you are all going through
the same thing so just go easy on other people, but most of all remember to go
easy on yourself too.
