Go Easy On Yourself

     I feel a little sheltered because, I have always know that eating disorders are major problem for both men and women, I have also always known  that a lot of young people feel pressured by society to look and act a certain way. I don’t know if it just wasn’t as big of an issue in my town, or if I just didn’t give enough fucks to notice but I’m finding myself exposed to these blogs and everything I am just angry about it. There are a few different things I want to go over on this so bear with me if it doesn’t make a lot of sense, it’s a rant so maybe it will, and maybe it won’t but either way, it’s probably going to be a little long…sorry.

      I don’t care who you are, where you come from, anything about you, you do not have to look or act a certain way unless you want too. I hate it when someone tells me to just ‘be myself’ because frankly sometimes I don’t want to be myself, there are some days when I would give everything to not be me, so fuck yea, if that’s how I’m feeling, I may not act like my natural self for a day. That’s fine, I don’t see anything wrong with that, sometimes you just need to get away from yourself and that’s fine. Or you may not know who you are yet and that’s fine too. Granted I will say my little warning label on this, don’t forget that just because you aren’t acting like yourself, that doesn’t mean your actions won’t affect what you’re doing. Example: you want to act slutty for a day or something, fine go ahead but if you go all out and have sex with some random guy at a party, that’s still going to be a thing the next day once you’re not being slutty anymore. Also if you don’t want to be slutty don’t judge other people who are. Yea, I agree I don’t want to see that but at the end of the day, I will admire that people confidence because my idea of flirting with a guy is hitting him in the arm and calling him bro. So if someone is acting all slutty, unless they are all up on your significant other, don’t hate. However if they are all up on your significant other, feel free to punch a bitch. But also reevaluate your significant other situation if they are falling for someone’s slutty act.

     You do not have to look a certain way. With the exceptions of identical twins (sometimes), no two people will ever have the same body, ever! And I know it’s hard, trust me, I struggle with it on a daily basis, but you just have to accept your body for all of its beauty, because I promise it is beautiful.  I’ll be honest, I am a girl who last weighed in at 195lbs after spending my entire high school career over 200lbs. Along with those 195lb I have stretch marks on not only my stomach but my thighs and boobs and a “leg gap” has been out of the question for me since I started playing hockey, cause I got me some hockey legs. And I think I am gorgeous! Some days I don’t, some days I look at myself and I see all these flaws and everything about me that could be seen as “gross” or “not normal” and on those days I just like to curl up and watch movies, but I always make sure to put on my favorite pair of yoga pants and my favorite tank and remind myself that I have a great ass or something like that. And that’s what you should do to, do whatever you have to do to make yourself feel awesome, whether it be admiring your ass in yoga pants or putting on your favorite push-up bra that makes you feel a little perkier (mentally). Its ok not to always feel awesome about yourself but know, It’s not about how much you weigh or what society thinks is beautiful, it’s about what you think is beautiful and what makes you feel good. I know you hear/read this all the time but seriously, it’s true; all the stupid cliché sayings normally are so you might as well accept it now.

As a general note, I know I said that if you want to do something, do it, however I feel like I need to make a disclaimer saying that if you feel like not eating for any length of time longer them a couple of hours, don’t do that. Fuel your body and it will do great things for you

      Also and this is kind of important for everyone to maybe be aware of because only parents will tell you this but it’s true. It is totally ok to be a virgin. Society doesn’t like to talk about it but if you haven’t had sex yet and you’re in high school or even college, it’s not that big of a deal. You maybe from a small town where it seems like everyone has done it, but I promise there are people who haven’t and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. For girls and boys remember, it’s your body and you get to decide what to do with it and you are also the one who has to live with the choices you make, not your friends, not your family, you. That includes who you have sex with, when you have sex with them, what you eat, how you act, how you look, everything. So whatever you do choose to do with your body, make sure that at the end of the day you can live with your choices.

     I know that my writing doesn’t always make sense so I apologize but here you go. I am a firm believer that everyone goes through the same problems regardless of gender, race etc. So I hope this helps in some way to know you’re not alone. Growing up is hard, it sucks and it doesn’t get easier in the slightest and I don’t think it ever will, you just get better with time. But since growing up is so hard, go easy on everyone, you are all going through the same thing so just go easy on other people, but most of all remember to go easy on yourself too.