Friday, January 17, 2014

I Need Feminism Because...

So this is my little feminist rant, sorry like most of my posts it’s kind of all over the place, but I hope I got my point across.

I have a friend on Facebook who recently posted this video https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10202284797704724 and her captain read "do any of you dread the modesty vs perception/expectation/"un-cool" talk like me?" I want to state that I'm not trying to call out this woman, she a mother of 3 little girls and I hold no dislike or any hard feelings towards her. However, I hate this video, because it is just assumed that women dress to impress men. If you click on the actual Facebook video the captain reads "This is so true. I'm amazed and appalled by some of the dresses I've seen and sometimes by young ladies who should know better. Today's young men would like to see more modest dresses at Homecoming and Prom!" FUCK THAT! Sorry to break it to you but girls don't dress for young men, they dress for other girls. Even when I went on a date I didn’t dress to impress the guy, I wanted to make everybody who looked at me jealous that I looked good and I got the guy. I don't think I've ever had a male friend come up to me and start bashing my clothing saying I’m too slutty or something and if they did, fuck them! And I'm sorry, but who the fuck is anyone to judge what somebody else wears to begin with. I get it, its human nature to compare and judge other people, welcome to the world, but seriously just because I wear shirts that show a lot of cleavage doesn't make me a bad person, I just have a lot of boobs or that I enjoy wearing a short skirt sometimes because I feel good in it, not to impress anybody. I want to feel good about myself and if that means I'm going to dress up like a slut, they who are you to tell me I'm not good enough for something. Why shouldn't young girls show off their bodies and be proud of themselves? Society let’s little girls grow up thinking there is something wrong with their bodies by telling them to cover it all up because if you show your body off that automatically makes you a slut. Dress codes even do it by saying girls can’t show off their shoulders in school because heaven forbid a guy can’t conceal his sexual urges when he sees a woman’s bare shoulders.  That’s on boys if they can’t take care of their boners, and girls shouldn’t be blamed for that. On a real level clothing is a healthy outlet for kids, teenagers and people in general to express themselves. If they want to dress modest, great, that’s their body. If someone wants to dress like a slut, fine, their choice, not yours. And we shouldn’t be teaching little girls to be afraid of their bodies, we should teach them to accept and treasure their bodies and to celebrate them however they choose.  Seriously, don’t make girls feel wrong about their bodies and that they have to cover themselves because somebody might think that their sluts. By worrying about other people’s perceptions of your own body, you’re making yourself and your children a victim of unhappiness because if you can’t accept your body for all the amazingness and beauty that it is, then what’s the point of having it. Not to mention the fact that teaching them that you have to cover your body because you will just be seen as a sexual object if you show it off, what kind of message is that really sending to young women? There is absolutely nothing wrong with being modest, but there is also nothing wrong with showing of what your mama gave you. And really if we are going to teach anybody anything about modesty and perception we should be teaching boys to control their sexual urges and to perceive women as equals and not sexual objects to begin with.

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